The concept of "excessive arousal in men" can be viewed from two perspectives: a situation that causes painful feelings when not realized (temporary) strong sexual desire and constantly increasing libido (satiriasis, hypersexuality). In the latter case, the constant sexual arousal after ejaculation does not go away and significantly worsens the quality of life: the man can not concentrate on any activity, becomes irritable, depressed. Such hypersexuality is, in fact, similar to priapism - an unreasonably painful erection that does not subside after ejaculation. The reasons can be both physiological and psychogenic.
Causes and symptoms of hypersexuality
In young men, sexual arousal, often due to increased testosterone levels, is normal until spontaneous ejaculation. This is called pubertal hypersexuality. The main symptoms are:
- Sensation of enlargement of the genitals ("bell eggs");
- Increased sensitivity of erogenous zones;
- intermittent fever, sweating;
- Increased urination is often accompanied by excruciating pain in the lower abdomen and lower back.
Urologists usually do not pay much attention to young patients with complaints of hypersexuality. Doctors refer them to a psychologist, but only if they prescribe tests for genital infections.
Abnormal hypersexuality can be congenital (primary) or acquired. Congenital forms of hypersexuality can be associated with pathologies of the central nervous system, endocrine disorders and mental disorders. The acquired form is divided into physiological and pathological. In the first case, increased sexual desire can be caused by stress or high levels of testosterone in the blood.
The pathological form, as a rule, develops against the background of organic pathologies of the central nervous system. They are provoked by:
- Neuroinfection (encephalitis, meningitis).
- Head trauma.
- Vascular lesions and brain tumors.
- Intoxication caused by alcohol or drug use.
Hypersexuality during adolescence can be caused by endocrine disorders - an excess of stress hormones or testosterone (due to hyperfunction of the testicles or adrenal cortex).
Hypersexuality of a neurotic nature develops on the basis of a person's low self-esteem and lack of confidence in a man's ability to pay. In this situation, the constant desire for sex is an unconscious attempt to prove to yourself and others that there are no problems in intimate life.
Increased neurotic hypersexuality may occur in men of retirement age during the period of depletion of sexual function. In this case, the reason is the subconscious desire to "stay in the ranks", to fill in the gaps of youth.
The difference between normal hypersexuality and pathological
It is the boundary between hypersexuality caused by a strong sexual constitution and caused by a pathological condition. Some men need sex every day and more than once. It is normal if the process brings pleasure and satisfaction and professional, creative and social activity is not harmed (developed structure of needs). In this case, we can not talk about pathological over-excitement, but about a high level of vital energy.
Natural primary hypersexuality may be due to genetic characteristics. Men whose fathers have sex are more likely to follow in their footsteps.
Satiriasis is an obsessive painful need for sex and it is almost impossible to get rid of it. Over time, such men become prone to sexual misconduct because normal relationships become meaningless to them. There is almost no time for other areas of life. Such hypersexuality can be imaginary or manic. The latter form is more difficult to correct.
The physiological symptoms of hypersexuality in adult men are the same as in adolescence:
- An erection that is longer than even an erotic look, a fantasy;
- Premature ejaculation;
- Feeling of tightness in the lower abdomen.
An important difference between pathology and the norm is that men with a strong sexual constitution are able to quickly switch to other activities (work, daily life) immediately after meeting their physiological sexual needs. Pathological hypersexuality makes you literally look for the possibility of new sexual intercourse immediately.
Excitement and testicular pain
Pain in the testicles due to unrealistic sexual arousal is not necessarily hypersexual, but occurs in many men. The degree of anxiety is different for everyone. The pain can be so severe that it is difficult for a man to walk. This is due to excessive blood flow to the genitals, which causes the nerve endings to constrict. It is enough for the patient to rest or use anesthetics or antispasmodics.
Pain during excessive arousal can be caused by varicocele or genital infections, the activity of which weakens the testicular tissue, disrupts their normal structure. If the symptoms appear regularly, you should consult a urologist.
With excessive arousal, masturbation or sexual intercourse will not bring comfort if the discomfort in the groin is already clearly felt. Conversely, orgasm can be cloudy and ejaculation can be very painful. The pain will be felt for about two more hours, and in some men it will not last for several days. You can relieve anxiety with aspirin. Mint infusion will help relax smooth muscles.
The only way to prevent pain is not to over-stimulate. If you meet without intimacy, but sexual intercourse is not excluded, it is better to divorce in advance. It sounds weird, but this option is better because of the "retreat" to experience many hours of sharp pain, which seems to go out of normal life.
Other problems of hypersexuality
Increased anxiety in men, inability to control the degree of sexual desire can become a serious problem. With any provocation, including in a public place, an erection occurs that can be difficult to hide.
Often absurd situations arise: during sexual intercourse, excessive sexual arousal (often accompanied by the release of lubricant from the Cooper's glands) ends with the fall of the penis during application or premature ejaculation.
Hypersexuality prevents you from focusing on important work issues. Such men are unable to concentrate and show initiative, so they often lose their promising jobs.
How to get rid of obsessive hypersexuality
Treatment of hypersexuality depends on the cause. First of all, physiological factors must be eliminated. To do this, you need to visit a urologist, make sure that there are no pathologies of the reproductive system, check the level of hormones. A neurologist (neurologist) will help diagnose problems with the brain and spinal cord.
Psychogenic hypersexuality is practiced by psychologists-sexologists. You can help the patient only if he is aware of the problem and wants to get rid of it. The choice of methods depends on how rich a person's intimate life is, what other ways he can enjoy sexual intercourse, and what efforts he is ready for treatment. Hypnosis is used if the patient is unable to concentrate and communicate with a psychologist. In parallel with psychotherapeutic methods, antidepressants, sedatives and hypnotics are prescribed if necessary.
What to do at home
Sexual arousal can last from morning to evening. If hypersexuality is not caused by physical pathologies, you can try the following methods to reduce it:
- Take a cool shower, empty your bladder or go about your daily routine. It should be remembered that morning erection is a normal phenomenon, a sign of lack of vascular impotence.
- It is recommended to spend all your free time during the day. Endurance exercises (moderate cardio, low weight repetitions) can help relieve sexual tension. Exercising with heavy weights, squatting, mixing and lifting the legs, on the contrary, will activate the genitals.
- It is advisable to take a sedative before going to bed so that psycho-emotional activity begins to slow down.
You can try to cope with hypersexuality with the help of sedatives or herbal remedies. It should be borne in mind that such funds, especially valerian, begin to work only after a few days of regular use (cumulative effect).
If hypersexuality is triggered by alcohol or drug intoxication, it is impossible to correct the situation without getting rid of bad habits. By taking enterosorbents, you can help the body remove toxins.
Excessive arousal, hypersexuality is worse than a decrease in libido. In the latter case, many men lead a full-fledged social life, succeeding in professional activities without paying much attention to the absence of sexual intercourse. Addiction to it makes a person emotionally (and later physically) disabled. True hypersexuality rarely develops. Basically, men themselves instill in their minds the need to have sex. Such thoughts are the place of a certain information environment. Experts believe that the higher a person's intellectual development, as well as the level of employment, the less likely he is to develop any mental addiction.